How To Be Kinder To Yourself

Let’s face it: oftentimes we forget ourselves in the process of wanting to please others too much.

In the end though, we realize that seeing the smiles on the faces of other people can’t really fully address your own void

To some extent yes, it brings you joy and a sense of fulfillment.

But have you ever thought about how important it is to acknowledge your own needs and wants?

So let me ask you this: when was the last time you put yourself first?

When was the last time you gave yourself what is due without feeling guilty?

If your answer is “never” or you have long forgotten when, then this is your sign to treat yourself kinder.

Hear me out on this: whatever you’ve been through, or whatever it is that you’re going through, no matter how f*cked up life may be, beating yourself up and depriving yourself won’t resolve the issue on hand or bring back time.

Hard slap I know. But you needed that.

If you want to change the space you’re in, start by being kinder to yourself.

Because as you take care of yourself more, you become happier and you also teach others how to treat you.

Stop questioning yourself whether you’re deserving or not of that kindness. That was never the question.

It’s all about recognizing your own worth and being comfortable with owning your space as you journey towards your own #bestmeever .

And you can achieve just that by following these 5 tips on how you can be kinder to yourself:

1. Listen to yourself

Uhuh. Never disregard your own needs and wants. They matter. And you matter as much as anyone else. You don’t need to shut off that inner voice telling you what can make you become happier and more fulfilled in this life time. Acknowledge them and give yourself what is due. Because each time you fill up your own cup, you come from a space of overflow and you get to share more to others.

2. Have loving conversations with yourself

How you speak to yourself affects how you see and feel about yourself. Engaging in positive self talk allows you to appreciate and empower yourself more. Mind you though: it’s not just about saying things; it’s all about believing them too. On a personal note, what I do is that every time I stand in front of the mirror, I do my affirmations as I give myself the credit that is due, whole heartedly. Sometimes the exact words we need to hear need not come from others. We can just genuinely speak from the heart as we tell ourselves just those.

3. Set and observe boundaries

Respect is key in any relationship, including the one that you have with yourself. By setting boundaries, you allow yourself to exist in a happier space as you protect yourself from anything or anyone not in alignment with your core values. Never feel guilty for distancing yourself from unnecessary stress and drama. They don’t deserve to share spaces with you in the first place.

4. Invest on yourself and your growth

One of the best gifts you can give yourself is growth. You are the best investment you can ever make so don’t set aside opportunities to work on yourself, develop your potential and become the person you’re meant to be. Working on yourself is never an unnecessary expense — it’s a must if you want to make the most of this lifetime. So whether you enroll in a class that’s in alignment with your passion, get a coach, or go on that much needed vacation, do it. You grow more when you flow.

5. Pursue your dreams

You’re not just an enabler for others — you also deserve to make your dreams come true. Give yourself enough time and space to go for what you truly want in life. It’s never too late to listen to yourself and fulfill what makes your heart skip a beat. Make your own fairy tale come true by unapologetically taking steps towards your own north star, as you finally live your true purpose in this lifetime, whatever that may be for you. At the end of the day, you can always help others even as you pursue your own dreams. Never think it’s about choosing one over the other.