How To Deal With Humiliation Better

I know. The mere thought can be so scary.

I mean, who wants to be caught in an awkward moment amidst a sea of stares filled with judgment?

Can you relate to this?

Take this time to reflect: when was the last time you felt humiliated?

Did you lose in a competition?

Missed the goals you set for yourself?

Got scolded by your boss?

Got compared to another person harshly?

I know we can all add up to this list based on our own set of experiences.

But you know what, let it be known that whatever made you feel insignificant and small back then, at that moment — they don’t define you.

How you respect yourself and how you pick up yourself after that fall, will.

Understandably though, it’s not easy to bounce back after getting humiliated.

Nursing a bruised ego takes time and a whole lot of effort and so does mending your self-worth.

However, know that it’s very much possible to free yourself from the downward spiral that humiliation brings.

Here are 5 ways to help you deal with humiliation better:

1. Don’t take everything personally

Seriously: it’s not all about you. The way people judged you or mocked you, is on them. It shows the kind of people they are. Don’t let an unfortunate event define you and what you can still be. Remember: people see life through their own lens based on their set of experiences, most of which amy not be similar with yours. You know yourself better. Acknowledge what’s true and let go of the other opinions which don’t really add value. Continue working on yourself as you journey towards your own #bestmeever and know that if you do, things will eventually work out on your favor.

2. Remind yourself it’s just temporary

Nothing lasts forever. Including feeling humiliated. It will pass. So why let one unfortunate situation define your entire life permanently? You can always bounce back by choice. What is important here is to humble yourself and accept the situation as is, so you can process it fully eventually. Ask yourself this: will what you’ve been through: the failures, humiliation and all, still matter in a year’s time? I don’t think so. Life has so much more to offer you only if you open your eyes, mind and heart to receiving what is due.

3. Be mindful about silver linings

I always say this: everything happens for a reason. So whether it’s a break up, a failed attempt, a missed opportunity or being made to feel small by certain individuals or situations, each event carries a particular lesson that will be of great value for you moving forward. Stop resisting the situation on hand and humble yourself enough to ask: what can I learn from this situation? How can I grow using this as my inspiration? Asking yourself those powerful questions can do wonders for you moving forward as you uncover blessings in disguise.

4. Remember previous wins

Don’t let hard times make you forget how amazing you are. When you feel down and insignificant, try to recall all your previous successes before the unfortunate event happened. Don’t overthink; big or small, they matter because they remind you of your worth and what you can still be. Don’t let an unfortunate situation and the judgment of others hold you back from maximizing your potential and being your best. If you’re not yet keeping a gratitude list, this is your sign to start on yours so that you have something to look back to when the time comes you need to validate yourself.

5. Reflect and recalibrate

Nope, you don’t need to bounce back immediately. Take time to fully embrace how you feel and understand the situation fully. Hurrying the process will only make things worse. Take time to embrace the lessons and invest on yourself and your growth. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone else; you just have to give yourself the time and space that is due, which means letting yourself be and planning what will be best for you moving forward. You don’t need anyone else’s approval to do just that. You owe it to yourself.